do you ever have second-hand obsessions
like one of your friends is super obsessed with a thing so whenever you see something about it you’re like “YES THIS THING” but you’re not the one obsessed with it. they are. you know very little about this thing and yet it still excites you because it excites your friend
this is my auntie kim and uncle dave (my mama’s baby brother). they got married 33 years ago today, before he went off to the army. she was eighteen, just out of high school.
they’ve had a really difficult 33 years since then, dealing with his severe addictions, and then having to watch their youngest son go through the same thing. saying it’s been tough would be an understatement. but they’re still together; they celebrated their anniversary today.
i know it’s probably bad to have favorite relatives (hey, we all do it, right?), but i have a special spot in my heart for uncle david. he was the second generation of what would be three in a row of alcoholism and drug abuse. but, according to mama, he’s probably the most emotional of all of her siblings. he sent me the most beautiful card in the whole world when i hit a rough patch, and i keep it close to me always.
point being: i would’ve understood if they called it quits 20 years ago. they’ve had more than enough reason to walk away from each other. they were so young when they got married. but they’ve stuck it out, through absolutely everything, and it gives me incredible joy to see them together, after all this time. relationships are work. it’s not this effortless thing that just falls into place and stays there. but they’ve proven time and time again that they’re both willing to work for it, to fight for their marriage and for each other, and that gives me hope.
i wish them another 50 years of happiness. there are few people as deserving as them.